Prom night. Pressure. The power of peers. It just isn’t easy to say “no” isn’t it? It’s alright because everyone else is doing “it,” right? Wrong. Not everyone around you is having sex. While some forms of media would suggest otherwise, some positive role models are stepping out and showing girls the power of saying no.
Country singer Kellie Pickler is one of those positive role models. In her latest single, “Don’t You Know You’re Beautiful,” Pickler proclaims, “Hey there little homecoming queen in that back seat. I’ll bet his brown eyes are promising you everything! And I know you want to be just like your friends, but he’ll still love you if you don’t give in. But if those girls were being honest that have been where you’re at, I’d bet they’d tell you they wish they had their innocence back.” Kellie is so right! Right now it’s summertime–time to hang loose and have fun with your friends. I know that it isn’t easy to walk away from peer pressure. It is not easy to walk away from a party invitation that you know will have alcohol involved. I know that it is not easy to walk away from that guy who says, “I love you” because he just wants one little thing. That one little thing is not all that little. Sex has the power to change the course of your entire life. It is not some walk in the park as Hollywood would like to portray it. Save the intimacy of sex for marriage. That is what God designed it for! Get to know guys for who they are as people! Right now simply enjoy being friends. God will show you the right time to begin walking down the dating trail. For some of you that may be right now. Hold Jesus’ hand as you walk beside another. God will guide you. For others of us, God has told us to wait. His perfect man is not on the scene yet. Why would we waste our “I love yous” on someone that they weren’t meant for? Sexual purity is not only about physical sex. Sexual purity includes our hearts and minds as well. Protect yourself. It is way too easy to fall into the “crush” pit. Once you begin to think it, it is extremely hard to change your thoughts. Ask God to guide you through this process of growing up. He will. Make a list of what you are looking for in a guy. This will definitely help you as you think about dating. For example, my list looks a little something like this (I won’t give you all of the characteristics I am looking for because that would take a couple entries just to fill them all out!):
- Strong Christ-follower: He puts Jesus first in everything and obviously loves Him with all of his heart.
- Strong leader: He can lead me in the right direction.
- Obvious integrity.
- Intuitive and discerning.
- Athletic/healthy: he needs to help me stay motivated to be active!
- Driven and inspired to accomplish his dreams and goals.
- Good listener.
- Appreciates different cultures and countries.
- Thinks with the end in mind.
- Good with finances.
While these are just a couple of characteristics, they definitely put things in perspective! Right now, have fun. Be friends with guys without that pressure of being attached to one. God will bless you when you wait on His timing.
What God does in you while you wait is just as important as what you are waiting for.
Run to Jesus and look to see who is trying to catch up with you.
Check out my post, Boys Are Like Pancakes, for some more insights on guys!