How To Handle Unwanted Change
Change is a way of life; it is the expected unexpected. Change is sometimes eagerly wanted, while sometimes it is unsought. It is when change is not wanted that we often have the hardest time accepting our circumstances.
John F Kennedy once said, “Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future.”
When I was younger I hated change. The only time I was ever okay with change was when I could clearly see the benefits of the change.
Kennedy knew that change was the one thing you could count on in life. But what he forgot was what Hebrews 13:8 reminds us of: “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.”
Jesus is our anchor; He is unchanging and unwavering. Malachi 3:6 says, “I the Lord do not change. So you, the descendants of Jacob, are not destroyed.” No matter what life throws our way, He has our well-being in mind.
Jeremiah 29:11 says, “‘For I know the plans I have for you’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’” Jesus will protect you; He will provide for you; He is your hope and your anchor.
Unwanted change is hard to handle, and it is even harder when the change is unexpected.
I have dealt with a lot of unexpected and unwanted change in my life. When my mom died when I was thirteen, I had no warning. She had been in the hospital, but because I was so young, I was led to believe her condition was not as bad as it actually was. In reality, she deteriorated quickly. To say her death was unexpected and unwanted is an understatement. No one expects to lose their mom at the age of 13. And no one wants to go through their teenage years with just a father for guidance.
One of the most important lessons I learned after mom died was that I was not alone throughout it all. When my mom died, I felt so isolated from my friends; from my family. My dad, sisters and I all coped in different ways.
Deuteronomy 31:8 says “The Lord himself will lead you and be with you. He will not fail you or abandon you, so do not lose courage or be afraid.” He reminds us not to be afraid, even in a time of unwanted change. He is leading us through the murky waters, to a path greater than the one we were on before.
Unwanted change is a factor of life; the best way to handle it is by remembering you are not alone. You have the strength of God on your side. With Him, you can endure anything.
Author: Brianna Nelson
Brianna Nelson is a 24 year old Southern California native that currently resides in Nashville, Tennessee. She loves reading, listening to music and going to concerts, spending time outdoors with her friends, and playing with her new puppy Ginny, a 4 month old Dachshund. She was raised Roman Catholic, but at the age of 10 converted to Christianity with her family. She rededicated her life to God at the age of 20 while attending California Baptist University. Brianna has experienced her own sense of loss when her mom died of a rare blood disease when she was 13 years old. Since then she has lost several close family members and friends. She suffered depression in her early years of college and since then, she has spoken out about the effects of depression and the loss of a loved one within the Christian community. She is currently furthering her education at Regent University and obtaining a Masters in Strategic Communications while working full time for the Hospital Corporation of America in their Human Resources department. Her home church in Nashville is Crosspoint.