Is There Purpose in Singleness?
What’s the purpose in singleness? Is there a purpose?
Being single means being alone. Or at least, that’s how most single 25 year old women see it. But I see it as a movie starring just me; an adventure that I am leading; a life where I get to make all of the decisions, do only what I want, and hog all of the blankets and the entire bed to myself.
But is there a reason for singleness? Is there a purpose? 1 Corinthians 7:32-34 says, “An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife—and his interests are divided.” Paul writes in 1 Corinthians to remind us that singleness is a time for us to grow closer to God and to strengthen our faith. With the strength in God, and a firm relationship with Him, the strength of a relationship can only be stronger. Being strong in our faith as a single person can only help build the blocks to create an even stronger faith-based relationship.
One of the hardest parts of being single is remembering that God not only has a plan, but that He has the perfect person out there for you, and that He won’t forsake you.
With a relationship with God, you are never alone. Being single does not mean that you are alone, as Joshua 1:9 reminds us, “God is with you—wherever you may go and no matter what life brings you.”
He is with you always.
I like to think that the purpose of singleness is twofold:
1. To draw nearer to God. To strengthen your relationship with Him, which will allow for a strong foundation to build a lifelong relationship on once you have found the one which God create for you.
2. To learn who you are as an individual.
One of the biggest lessons I have learned having observed my friends in and out of relationships is that a steady understanding of who they are outside of a relationship is vital to the success of a relationship. I saw so many of my friends struggle in relationships in their early 20s because they could only find their identity in their relationship.
Without a solid foundation of one’s identity as a single person, it is hard to define your identity within a relationship. It is not always easy being single, but experiencing life as a single woman is important to the health of your future relationship.
Author: Brianna Nelson
Brianna Nelson is a 24 year old Southern California native that currently resides in Nashville, Tennessee. She loves reading, listening to music and going to concerts, spending time outdoors with her friends, and playing with her new puppy Ginny, a 4 month old Dachshund. She was raised Roman Catholic, but at the age of 10 converted to Christianity with her family. She rededicated her life to God at the age of 20 while attending California Baptist University. Brianna has experienced her own sense of loss when her mom died of a rare blood disease when she was 13 years old. Since then she has lost several close family members and friends. She suffered depression in her early years of college and since then, she has spoken out about the effects of depression and the loss of a loved one within the Christian community. She is currently furthering her education at Regent University and obtaining a Masters in Strategic Communications while working full time for the Hospital Corporation of America in their Human Resources department. Her home church in Nashville is Crosspoint.