One of the traits I value most in life is honesty and transparency. Colossians 3:9 says “Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices.” The Lord calls us to truth and to uphold honesty in all areas of our life. But how does that translate when your truth may conflict with someone else’s truth? Or when your truth may hurt someone else.
Having those difficult conversations are in essence difficult. Add in the factor that these conversations often have to be with family and friends, and these conversations are often more than tough, they become close to impossible.
So how do you lean in and have those tough conversations? How do you hold to your truth even when it is contradictory to theirs?
The basic definition of truth, it is a fact or belief that is accepted as true. Having those conversations where the truth is negotiable has to rely purely on the facts. Crucial conversations, one of the most widely recognized tactics for having difficult conversations, states that those having the conversations should come to a pool of shared meaning.
What that means is, both parties must come to a place where they want to come to an understanding and where they are willing to listen to each other.
James 1:19 says “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.” What this means is, take a deep breath before responding, pause before accusing, and give the benefit of the doubt before making assumptions.
Authenticity comes when we are real with ourselves and recognize when we are making assumptions and being unrealistic. Being authentic with others is crucial to having those tough conversations.
So when it is time to have those tough conversations, there are several key factors to remember: 1.Truth always wins
2. Authenticity, integrity and honesty are vital to having difficult conversations
3. Give others the benefit of the doubt
4. Remember to always lean into God when having those conversations. He will give you the strength and guidance you need.
Difficult conversations are the fact of life. I have had several difficult conversations throughout my life, and while I was hurt, I had to put aside that hurt, put my trust in God, and be authentic.