less scrolling, more being: how to actively pursue becoming who God made you to be
One week ago, a number on my phone’s home screen challenged me to log out of my social media accounts.
Taking a peek at my Screen Time analytics, the number staring back at me shocked me. Now, if you’re new to Screen Time, it’s a pretty cool iPhone feature shining a spotlight directly on the amount of time spent on your phone across different categories such as social media, productivity apps, and creativity.
The number of hours staring back at me? Eight to nine! How could I be spending eight to nine hours each day on my phone… and predominantly on social media?!
*insert face palm*
And then a challenging truth hit me head on: I was spending more time scrolling and less time being. I was scrolling, liking, commenting on, and participating in everyone else’s updates, posts and videos rather than living the becoming journey God has entrusted me with.
So I logged out of social media.
Galatians 6:4-5 in the Message translation says, “Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life.”
Right here, we’re charged with clear steps on the becoming journey:
- “Make a careful exploration of who you are & the work you have been given”… get to know who God made you to be!
- “Sink yourself into that”… prioritize becoming who God made you to be; give it your attention and focus.
- “Don’t be impressed with yourself”… becoming requires growth and grit; there’s no room for pride here.
- “Don’t compare yourself with others”… becoming you is about becoming YOU, not her, not him, not them… YOU.
- “Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life”… you’re responsible for how you pursue becoming who God made you to be, and I’m responsible for how I pursue becoming who God made me to be.
Hear me: celebrating people on social media isn’t bad—like your friends posts and comment encouraging messages, but don’t let it become what you do for eight hours a day. Don’t become so consumed with what they’re doing that you miss out on being who God made YOU to be. As we discovered in Galatians 6:4-5, you’re not responsible for what someone else does or doesn’t do, what they post or don’t post—you are responsible for becoming you. Don’t let anything, including social media, get in the way of that.
In the time being logged out of my social media accounts, it’s dawned on me how easy it is to become fixated on comparison when you scroll aimlessly for too long—comparing our seasons, our stuff, our relationships, what we have, what we don’t have… and in a split second, you can find yourself in a downward spiral, feeling stuck in unmoving skin, while it seems as if everyone you’re scrolling past is flying right by you.
You don’t have to live in a certain house; drive a specific car; wear that brand of make-up; be in a relationship or have a different relationship; be single; have children or not have children; have perfectly toned muscles; or a million social media followers. You. Are. Enough. Right. Here. Believe it, fight to believe it, because warrior friend, it’s TRUE.
1 Corinthians 15:10 says, “But by the grace of God I am what I am, and his grace to me was not without effect. No, I worked harder than all of them—yet not I, but the grace of God that was with me.”
Because of the grace of God, I am what I am. I am so very thankful for His never-ending, beautiful grace. This same grace is true for you too, warrior friend. If you don’t have a personal relationship with God, please email me. I’d love to introduce you. And to those of us who already have a relationship with God, remember His grace given to you. It is rooted in His grace that we become who He made us to be. He is the Author—He alone is God. Our role is to trust Him and take the very best next step He guides us to take.
Warrior friend, you can either watch others become who God made them to be and compare yourself to their journey, or you can focus your time, energy, and passion into becoming who God made you to be—but you can’t do both. You can’t devote equal energy to everyone and everything. To become who God uniquely designed you to be, it’s critical to prioritize what’s most important.
So, what IS most important?
- Your relationship with God. This is THE foundation for EVERYTHING on your becoming journey. How are you spending time with God personally? Are you reading His Word every, single day? Are you talking with Him? Again, warrior friend, if you don’t have a relationship with God, let’s connect… this is the most important relationship and I would love to introduce you.
- Choose to be you. At a time in my becoming story when I felt I just didn’t know who I was or who I wanted to be, my Daddy looked me straight in the eyes and firmly and kindly said 15 words that I’ll never forget for the rest of my life on this side of eternity: You know who you want to be. You just have to choose to be her. When you know Whose you are, you know who you are. I may not always know “what” I want to do and my dreams and goals may change, but my identity never does, because who I am is rooted in who Jesus Christ says I am. Standing firmly on this truth, I can choose to be me, a warrior daughter of the King of Kings.
Four words in Galatians 6:4-5 stand out, specifically for how to apply this truth to our becoming journeys: “sink yourself into that.” To sink yourself into something is to give yourself wholly to it, to be all in. Becoming you isn’t a weekend hobby or something you can journey through from a “church camp high.”
Sink yourself into the truth of God’s Word and the steps outlined in Galatians 6:4-5. Don’t sink yourself into anything that distracts or detours you from becoming who God made you to be. Refine and weed out. Set boundaries and limits. Ask a warrior friend to hold you accountable.
For me, I’m sinking myself into meaningful time in God’s Word to hear from Him for me. I’m setting Screen Time limits for social media and have boundaries in place to guard against aimless scrolling. I’m beginning to write again. And I’m lacing up my warrior boots committed to becoming who God made me to be with all I’ve got.
How will you sink yourself into the warrior work of becoming who God made you to be? Let me know in the comments!
And you know it… I’m cheering you on big time as you’re becoming who God made you to be, warrior friend!